Get Your Life Together First

You have to focus on you, and not what everyone else is doing. There isn't a shortage of quality men out here; there is a shortage of women who are actually ready for these quality men.

When women are asked why they are single, it's always because of something the men aren't doing. It isn't anyone's fault why you are single besides your own. Not every man you encounter is a subpar man.

I hate to tell you this, but it isn't the men, it's you. Yes, you are the problem, and you are your very own solution as well. Your problem is that you are a shipwreck, and while you think you are the best thing ever, the type of men you are attracting or entertaining in your life is a direct reflection of who you are. A reflection of you can either be just like you, or a person that is reflecting the dysfunction that exist in you.

Too many single ladies think they are great the way they are, and that quality men should be knocking down their doors to get into a relationship; and it's the man's fault that he can't see their worth. Well I'm here to tell you that 9 times out of 10 that's false. The real reason single ladies can't attract the right man is because there is something about them that keeps attracting the wrong man, and repelling the right ones.

Deep inside you know this to be true. You know, in your heart, there are things you should work on to be a better version of you, but you have decided to believe the Feminist lies of society―because it's easy to do―and just take the lazy route to attract a man. You believe that the man for you will accept you the way you are flaws and all...but what type of flaws are you bringing to the table. And depending on the type of flaws, is it really fair to ask a quality man to accept flaws he never intended on accepting just to be with you?

Time and time again, women project these high standards of perfection for men, but end up with the same result; being alone. Why you may ask? It's simply because a good man will think, why do I have to strive to measure up to a very flawed woman's standards? There are other women out here with less manageable flaws that they can choose from. So the good men leave, and guess who's still around, the bad men.

So there you have the cycle of the "perpetual-bad-man" relationship merry-go-round that keeps a lot of women single indefinitely.

Really think about it; how many times have you ended up disappointed; even though you knew what you wanted in a man? You would always end up with a bad man, and eventually that relationship would end, then it's hello Mr. Alone again.

Often times, women have this fairy tale ideal of their potential mate, it is unrealistic, and typically not the type of man that is really needed in their lives...and honestly, some women in their current state can't even measure up to their own standards that they implement for men.

If you keep encountering men that you don't think are right for you, 1st really assess the qualities you want your man to have (how will it benefit you); deeply look at what you bring to the table (look at how it will benefit him); really dig deep at how you can add to the life of this quality man you want for yourself.

Get yourself together...